Conversations to have with your kids and teens

“What do you think most people your age believe about drinking?”

(This takes the pressure off them and invites insight into their peer group and perceptions. It can naturally lead into a deeper discussion without sounding like an interrogation.)

“Do you think it’s hard for some people to say no to drinking? Why do you think that is?”

(Opens a dialogue about peer pressure without being accusatory.)

“What do your friends think about drinking?”

(Helps parents understand their child’s environment and social norms.)

“Have you ever been in a situation where you felt uncomfortable about what others were doing?”

(Allows them to share past experiences and build trust.)

“What would you do if someone you were with had too much to drink and needed help?”

(A way to talk about the Good Samaritan Law and reinforce safety and responsibility.)

“If you were ever in a tough situation and needed a ride or help, what’s the best way for us to handle that together, no judgment?”

(Sets the tone for a safe exit plan before it’s ever needed.)

“Let’s make a plan. If you’re ever in a situation and need to get out, what’s a good code word you can text me so I know to come get you right away, no questions asked?”

(Creates a clear safety net and reinforces your support in real-world moments.)

“What have you learned in school or health class about alcohol and how it affects the brain?” (Or how it affects mental health? School performance? Athletic performance?

(Taps into what they already know and can correct misinformation

“If someone offered you a drink at a party, what do you think you’d say?”

(Practice scenarios help teens build confidence and set boundaries.)

“Do you feel like you can come to me if something ever goes wrong, even if you made a mistake?”

(Reinforces open communication and your role as a trusted adult.)

How to talk to your child/teen

Conversation starters to have with your kids and teens.